Thats SSOO 2012

My Style Inspirations for Summer.....

 I will be redecorating my space and I am thinking dark wall colors in ever room. Love Slate Grey and Midnight Blue :)

Love this bright pink. Reminds me of the yellow I wore to New Orleans. I think that dress started an obsession. And this is so perfectly short. :)

A pop of color. I will be teaching this summer and this makes the perfect transition from the classroom to the bar ;)

Love the kids style. Its hard to bother with a boy because they are dirty in 2.5 seconds but for date night with mom this is perfect. 

There are no words to express how much I love this dress. It can do anything, boho, sleek.. EVERYTHING. I have something like it and I will be rockin the hell out of it. :)

Always a classic. Love my black dresses and since I am teaching I will get to wear it A LOT.

Her make-up is perfect. I love the lip color. Brown Bronze Goodness. I also love her locks they are so effortless and that little pony-tail? How did she pull that off? I mean really?

 Sigh. I would in a heart beat. I need to go to a festival. Bucket-list-it.

 Three things I love about this: Gold trim, fresh flowers and that big tree. I will be implimenting in my redecorating this summer.
Beautiful Black Men.... Summer time Chicago. CAN NOT WAIT. 

Friendship with style. A best friend is like a sister. I love Olsen twins fashion but I love their bond the most. I think thats what takes them the extra mile. 

I will be getting tatted ;)
Nature.

More nature.

I want to go camping in style. I need hiking boots. Nature. :)

Breath-taking. Where can I do this in the states?

Outdoors with style. 


O hell yes. 

I am a blazer-holic. I am not going to fight it anymore. I want ALL of these. 

Romance does not have to include a man. LOVE. 

This.

Solange once said that she doesn't mess with people whose shoe came is lacking. I dont know if its that deep but I know my shoe closet needs these asap. 

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A Place to Find God.

I thought nothing would come of the day. I wrote I post I have not re-read since and laid in bed for hours, wasting the day. Drowning in tears lost in thought. Hypocrite. No. So I got up and went to a place I had discovered only the day before. The place you go to find God. Great. Thats the person I need to talk to most. So I went. He was there. I thought. I wrote. I prayed. I cried. Pushing though what had kept me in bed. my own mind.

Here are some images of that sacred space:


The Entry Way.


The Perfect Tree for Climbing. 


A view from atop the tree. 


After a nap in the tree. 


The Hidden Stream. 


My Handy-Dandy Notebook. 

I wrote some things that really helped. I think that atmosphere gave me some clarity.

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The Sequel to Untitled


I don’t know how my tears taste. they fall on my lips but I don’t let my tongue leave my mouth. I press my lips together and the tears always disappear with time. I have patience for this process. If i do not taste them then that must mean something. what. will reveal itself in time. I can wait patiently for that revelation. What I have no patience for are your moods. there are no tears on your lips but they do not move. I have no patience for this process. I can not have patience for every process. Im still here. I have no patience for this process. I am still here. No patience. Here I am. Still. You have no patience for this process. You. are gone. You had no patience for my moods. You had no tears on your lips but your mouth did not move.


I wrote this in my journal when I got home today. I thought I should share it. 

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Untitled

I shivered. As soon as I sat down to write this post I shivered. I have been thinking about the last post I wrote wondering what is really says. If it's as I remembered. If it is scarred by typos and incomplete sentences. I am not ready to read it.

I wrote it because I am not 10 or 15 years out. I am not finished with the journey and I wish I could find something similar. someone similar. while hiding behind my computer screen. You see my words but not my heart. Its bruised and bloodied not ready for reemergence.

The road to recovery is different for each individual. The experience is different and so it the time frame. So I have been told at nauseam. Why is my road this long and how much longer will it be. Why at this time in this place does it bubble up and ooze out. Foul.

"How long will this last." You were talking about this process. I think. How dare you. I the space between your arms I felt truly safe. but this has lasted to long. your gone. How dare you.

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Raped: My Transformation of Silence

The fifth definition of rape on dictionary.com is this: the act of seizing and carrying off by force.This is  exactly what rape is someone deciding they can have a piece of you leaving you with a raw fleshy hole. Piercing through your stomach and into your heart. Tears flood into your lungs and your desperately inhaling but the muscle in your stomach have constricted and your chest is caving in. 

How long will I stay in bed today, only as long as it takes to right this post. This post is an ode to Audre Lorde and her masterpiece a Transformation of Silence into Language and Action.  "Even at the risk of having bruised and misunderstood," there are things that need to be spoken. Monsters that need the burn under hot white light. 

"Learning to put fear into perspective gave me great strength." 

My fear then my perspective:

1. I will never be able to trust the men I know. Trust is a process it is built over time and any man who really cares will stick it out because he sees you are trying you best. 

2. I will always have flashback and never be able to maintain a normal relationship. Flashbacks should be a handled one day at a time. Breathing through and reminding yourself were you are (and more importantly were your not) does wonders. Relationships always take work but deep breaths and faith will get you through. 

Lessons Learned:

1. Joy and peace must come from within and external things should only add to the bank.
2. Rape is about control, the best way to defeat that person is to not let it control you. 
3. When you do find someone you care about don't fall into the trap of binding their actions to your experience. 
4. Let a bad day be a bad day. If you are going to lay in bed all day put on a movie get some snacks do some art and let something beautiful come of your pain so it will not be a wasted day. 
5. Some people might reject you. It dont not mean there is something wrong with you. Unfortunately, we do not live in a world equipped to handle this. 

I am still on the journey and it is not easy, some days like today I feel I have come undone. Silence built a wall of fear but language saves. I am naked but my mind is at peace and my heart is strong. 

If you have experienced this and you share tips with me or vice versa send an email. 

I also really found Nikki Finney: Head Off & Split really helpful. The first story about wear the name of the book comes from especially. 

After my time...

I am convinced I was born after my time but God makes no mistakes so here are the things that inspire me. 


The women that inspire me the most. 



My dream big brother.
Nothing makes me feel more nineties than singing along to dream lover.
Lalalala llllaaaaa.

we would paint together then listen to poetry eat raw red peppers then look at the star *sigh*....(check out that outie lol)
 Girlfriends (the original). Max is truth.


The Dream.

The Original. I need the hat so bad. Im pretty sure Rihanna is inspired by the picture too actually.

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A Philosophy on Parenting

I am slowing forming my philosophy on parenting. I figure by the time he is 20 or so I should have a concrete philosophy. I have been looking up articles about parenting and I came across one I really like Just Parent, No Philosophy. Here is a quote from the piece:

"I believe the real reason that Gracie, her brothers and our kids all turned out O.K. is that it never really mattered whether they sucked it up or were coddled. What mattered was that their parents were all sitting on the bleachers that day. And on many, many (although certainly not all), other days as well. Whichever expert’s philosophy you feel most comfortable with, or whether you choose to make up your own, the single truth that applies to them all is that your kids need you to be on the metaphorical bleachers, cheering them on."


I think every parent is guided in the end by their beliefs on specific situations but it is of the utmost importance that we are there supporting them. I have found that my three year old boy just enjoys me sitting are or walking around with him. He loves to tell me about things and gage my reaction.  "Can the Hulk beat up God?" or " From now on I am not talking a bath!" All comments are met with a lively response and usually a follow-up question or comment. With this exchange he is overjoyed, some times I can't believe thats it. 

Right now he does not want to make gingerbread housing. He just wanted to each the cookies. And he does not need elaborate vacations for fancy toys. He wants open space, home cooked meals, and watching movies or tv with his favorite person (me). How do I know? I ask him and take what he says seriously. I will admit I dont always understand him.

He whines and does things and has no explanation which is frustrating, Think before you act! I find my self screaming "Don't tell me you don't know!" and "Didn't I say _______ ". I find myself wondering why he is such a boy and coming to terms that there are fundamental differences. I have every intention of raising a MAN: wild at heart. An kind hearted adventurer. A gentleman, the one that gets the girl (because he has shown that this is  his preference; Gay men are MEN too)  and treats her right.  I want to understand him and help him understand himself and the world around him. 

Here are some images I took on one of our adventures: 








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AwkwardPonyClub

Today I found myself walking to my friend Brians concert after class. The concert was amazing, I had never heard him sing at it was truly a blessing. After a quick lunch I wandered over to Anatomy to visit my girl, Amber who owns it. It is the perfect little friendly place and I had such a good time. Great music, great friends, great food, and great fashion.

 My Favorite (Handmade!) Shirt by my Astrid&Grey partner, Chi



Welcome to Anatomy! Grab a mask!


I was just so in love with these masks. I want with the owl and could see myself wearing it as part of an outfit. LOVE it! & the mustaches (not pictured) amazing. If your in Bloomington check them out. 

 An assortment of pretty things. As a geographer I had to make sure to get the globe and Indiana Map.

As if the fabulous clothes were not enough.... there is a puppy too!


I got this AMAZING purse @ Anatomy a few months ago and I use it so much you would think it was the only purse I have. Amber was so sweet about the purchase and all the other too that I felt great about it. I LOVE it.... see that smile. 

Two of my favorite things, I should have known this morning this day was going to be a fantastic day.


The first item on my hit-list (I am fasting from shopping :) What an amazing pair of pants right. Classic.


And this dress with pearls and nude (which for me means sexy chocolate brown) shoes... to die for. 
My friend Brian, the Pianist (I did not get his name but he was truly talented), and me at the recital. IU has such great Art of every kind I will be sure to share it with you. Check out the short chip below.  

Have a great day.

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